Depending on How You See a Thing

Photo by Tim Marshall, New Zealand

When dealing with a problem, it’s all about perspective.

In the past, I’ve defined myself according to my accomplishments or standings; for example, my parents’ firstborn, the short black guy, a graphic designer, an actor, and so on. But what do you do when there are no new accomplishments? No visible forward movement? What do you do when life throws you a disruption of epic proportions and it becomes clear that the circumstances are out of your control?

And We’re Back!

2016 winter

And we’re back! Thanks for your support in 2015. You made #HeyClay a huge success last year. You’d be surprised how many people were facing similar situations to the ones mentioned in the posts. You’d be even more surprised to find out how many people were helped in facing and embracing their challenges.

Letter No. 9: Why All the Buzz About Black Lives Matter?

Hey, Clay.

I’m a little confused on the #blacklivesmatter movement. What is the message, and what do they want us to know about it. I have yet to receive a clear message on what it stands for. I know it has created spin offs like #alllivesmatter and #copslivesmatter. I know they want more policing of the police. What do they recommend we do to support them?

Letter No. 6: How Do You Make Your Parents Feel Wanted But Not Needed?

Hey, Clay.

I have always been very independent from a young age. I was the child that my parents were always proud of and boasted about. They still do to this day and tell everybody, “Our child is living the dream life, we are so proud.” Unfortunately something is missing. We have never made the transition from parent-child relationship to parent-adult relationship. I’m having issues with this.